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Low Self Esteem can be the cause for bullying

Kids who are bullied are more likely to experience:

Depression, anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy. These issues may persist into adulthood and from coaching, I can tell you they do!

ENCOURAGE kids to do what they love.  Activities, interests and hobbies to boost their confidence, build friendships and it can take them away from bulling behavior.

SPEAK UP for yourself, look the person bulling you in the eye and tell them to stop in a calm, clear voice, then walk away.

LIST your options and make changes.  Keep doing the same thing and you can expect the same results.  Make a list of all the things you can change and start working through the list until you see the results you want.

TREAT others with respect and kindness, be the person that you would like others to be.  Two wrongs don't make it right.  To gossip, judge, disrespect and act hateful ways erodes your self image further and is not the path to building good relationships, handling conflicts successfully or in bringing out the best in others.

ENGAGE your parents and work out a plan together.  Parents should respond in a way that does not place blame on the child who is being victimized and act in a way that does not embarrass the child further or your child will stop coming to you for help. 

Many of us assume that a bully picks on people who are weaker; misfits or loners. But as adults, like in childhood, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Kelly is proof of this. Indeed, the Canada Safety Council says adult bullies often choose targets who are capable, intelligent and attractive individuals whose interpersonal style tends to be nonconfrontational.

“The bully sees the use of threat, whether it is physical, financial or emotional, as the only way to get ahead,” says Dr. Anthony Ocana, a family physician in Vancouver

What may be a surprise is that bystanders – people who witness the bullying but do nothing to stop it – hold the balance of power.


Other signs to look for if this is your child:

Decreased academic achievement—and school participation.  More likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school.  This child would be making choices to avoid problems and challenges and back away from going after their dreams

A very small number of bullied children might retaliate through extremely violent measures. In 12 of 15 school shooting cases in the 1990s, the shooters had a history of being bullied.